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The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook
What happens when a young brain is traumatized? How does terror, abuse, or disaster affect a child's mind--and how can that mind recover? Child psychiatrist Bruce Perry has helped children faced with unimaginable horror: genocide survivors, murder witnesses, kidnapped teenagers, and victims of family violence. In The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, he tells their stories of trauma and transformation through the lens of science, revealing the brain's astonishing capacity for healing. Deftly combining unforgettable case histories with his own compassionate, insightful strategies for rehabilitation, Perry explains what exactly happens to the brain when a child is exposed to extreme stress-and reveals the unexpected measures that can be taken to ease a child's pain and help him grow into a healthy adult. Through the stories of children who recover-physically, mentally, and emotionally-from the most devastating circumstances, Perry shows how simple things like surroundings, affection, language, and touch can deeply impact the developing brain, for better or for worse. In this deeply informed and moving book, Bruce Perry dramatically demonstrates that only when we understand the science of the mind can we hope to heal the spirit of even the most wounded child.
288 pages, Hardcover
First published January 8, 2007
About the author
Bruce D. Perry
23 books1,286 followersBruce D. Perry is an American psychiatrist, currently the senior fellow of the Child Trauma Academy in Houston, Texas and an adjunct professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at the Feinberg School of Medicine in Chicago, Illinois.
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December 9, 2020
Absolutely fascinating.
There's the case from the title - where a (marginally) well-meaning old man finds himself in charge of a young boy (the grandson of a deceased girlfriend).
Not knowing how to raise children, but having plenty of experience raising dogs, he decides to use the methods he knew best.
For years, the child was treated with as much love and care as he gave his dogs...which is to say not much.
And as a result, Dr. Bruce Perry stumbles into a hospital only to find a feces-throwing, unsocialized and feral child locked to a hospital bed.
But with immediate placement into foster care and a few (okay, quite a few) sessions, the child is now rehabilitated.
Now that is one - just one - of the many cases the author describes.
He speaks of clinical studies and cases through a very down-to-earth way (much to my relief).
The cases he speaks of were absolutely fascinating - I truly wish this book was four times longer.
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Read by Danny Campbell - and he nailed it. The perfect mixture of tone and pacing. Really well-read.
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The truth is, you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation.Whewww, this one was an emotional doozy - I was equally fascinated and horrified by what the author witnessed and treated.
There's the case from the title - where a (marginally) well-meaning old man finds himself in charge of a young boy (the grandson of a deceased girlfriend).
Not knowing how to raise children, but having plenty of experience raising dogs, he decides to use the methods he knew best.
For years, the child was treated with as much love and care as he gave his dogs...which is to say not much.
And as a result, Dr. Bruce Perry stumbles into a hospital only to find a feces-throwing, unsocialized and feral child locked to a hospital bed.
But with immediate placement into foster care and a few (okay, quite a few) sessions, the child is now rehabilitated.
Now that is one - just one - of the many cases the author describes.
Biology isn’t just genes playing out some unalterable script. It is sensitive to the world around it.Dr. Perry talks about the therapy triage he did with the 21 Waco cult children, the analysis of a teen psychopath (who murdered and raped two girls), the Russian orphan who had no adult socialization for the first three years of his life (and the other orphan children began making their own language) and so much more.
The more healthy relationships a child has, the more likely he will be to recover from trauma and thrive. Relationships are the agents of change and the most powerful therapy is human love.This book was riveting.
He speaks of clinical studies and cases through a very down-to-earth way (much to my relief).
The cases he speaks of were absolutely fascinating - I truly wish this book was four times longer.
Audiobook Comments
Read by Danny Campbell - and he nailed it. The perfect mixture of tone and pacing. Really well-read.
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October 30, 2017
This is a book about damaged children and the psychiatrist who tried to help them. The two saddest stories are the little girl, a toddler really, who at 3 was being prepared to testify against the man (as the only witness) who had murdered her mother in front of her and then cut her throat. She was too young to know about death and had tried to wake her mother and feed her, give her milk and then laid down on her and sung her lullabies.
The other was the 21 Waco children that David Koresh had taught to distrust everyone outside the compound and, if faced with them, to commit suicide. They watched each other which meant that they tried to preserve the evil culture that was the only one they knew. They supported each other to begin with in a very malign way, but later, this mutual support aided them in their journey towards mental health.
The author is an immensely caring man, and one who put aside objectivity for involvement ind these children's lives. How did he ever sleep at night? What did he dream of? He too must have needed therapy. Maybe that's what the book was.
The other was the 21 Waco children that David Koresh had taught to distrust everyone outside the compound and, if faced with them, to commit suicide. They watched each other which meant that they tried to preserve the evil culture that was the only one they knew. They supported each other to begin with in a very malign way, but later, this mutual support aided them in their journey towards mental health.
The author is an immensely caring man, and one who put aside objectivity for involvement ind these children's lives. How did he ever sleep at night? What did he dream of? He too must have needed therapy. Maybe that's what the book was.
December 12, 2018
Last Saturday, I was awakened from my sleep at five in the morning by strange noises. It took me a while to realize that it was my son who had just returned from a night out with his friends, and had a bout of hiccups. He has a place of his own, but every now and then, he sleeps at his old folks’ home, so I usually don’t expect nightly visitors.
Anyhow, I went upstairs to have a glass of water, and he followed me upstairs (our sleeping rooms are downstairs).
“You woke me with your hiccups!”
“I did not hiccup!”
“Yes, you did! Anyway, how was your night?”
“Oh, it was really fun! How was your evening?”
“Nice. I started to read a new book, about traumatized children: “The Boy Who was raised as a Dog.” It’s written by a psychiatrist. Have you heard about it?”
“No, I don’t know that one. Nice title. Sounds great.”
“It is! I’ve read the first story. It was about an eight-year-old girl who was sexually abused for two years by the sixteen-year-old son of the babysitter, who sometimes left the children under his care. He tied her and her little brother up and used toys...”
“Stop! That’s enough! I really don’t want to hear stories about abused little girls at five in the morning when I have to go to sleep!”
“Okay. I understand. I’ve also started the second story about a three-year-old girl who witnessed her mother being raped and murdered and has her own throat cut and was left for...”
“Mom! Please stop! I really don’t want to hear this right now. I’m tired, and I’m going to sleep. Good night!”
“Good night son, I’m glad you had such a great time tonight. Sleep well.”
(Review to come)
Anyhow, I went upstairs to have a glass of water, and he followed me upstairs (our sleeping rooms are downstairs).
“You woke me with your hiccups!”
“I did not hiccup!”
“Yes, you did! Anyway, how was your night?”
“Oh, it was really fun! How was your evening?”
“Nice. I started to read a new book, about traumatized children: “The Boy Who was raised as a Dog.” It’s written by a psychiatrist. Have you heard about it?”
“No, I don’t know that one. Nice title. Sounds great.”
“It is! I’ve read the first story. It was about an eight-year-old girl who was sexually abused for two years by the sixteen-year-old son of the babysitter, who sometimes left the children under his care. He tied her and her little brother up and used toys...”
“Stop! That’s enough! I really don’t want to hear stories about abused little girls at five in the morning when I have to go to sleep!”
“Okay. I understand. I’ve also started the second story about a three-year-old girl who witnessed her mother being raped and murdered and has her own throat cut and was left for...”
“Mom! Please stop! I really don’t want to hear this right now. I’m tired, and I’m going to sleep. Good night!”
“Good night son, I’m glad you had such a great time tonight. Sleep well.”
(Review to come)
June 16, 2015
A thorough, interdisciplinary book about childhood trauma written with compassion and eloquence, The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog amazed me with its depth and insight. Bruce Perry, an experienced psychiatrist, shares many case studies about kids who have suffered horrible adversity, and he discusses their development and recovery with intelligence and an apparent kindness. One quote that stood out to me about how we should treat people who self-medicate and self-harm with understanding instead of judgment:
"While self-mutilation, too, is often seen as an act of rebellion or attention-seeking, in most cases it is probably better understood as an attempt at self-medication as well. Cutting releases brain opioids, which makes it especially attractive to those who have been previously traumatized and found relief in dissociation. The same is true of people who use drugs like heroin or Oxycontin. Contrary to popular belief, most people who try these drugs do not find them overwhelmingly blissful. In fact, most people don't like the numbing sensation they produce. But those who suffer the after-effects of severe stress and trauma are likely to find the substances soothing and comforting, not deadening."
Perry weaves together neuroscience and human relationships throughout The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog. He discusses the brain's malleability in the early years of development, and he also provides perspective into how healthful relationships can ameliorate people's neurological, physical, and mental health. By delving into a wide array of scenarios - unintentional neglect, constant sexual abuse, cult upbringings, and more - and by treating every child's story with seriousness and tact, Perry reveals his skill as a doctor and as a kind human being. Another passage that stood out to me, about trauma and human relationships:
"Trauma and our responses to it cannot be understood outside the context of human relationships. Whether people have survived an earthquake or have been repeatedly sexual abused, what matters most is how those experiences affect their relationships - to their loved ones, to themselves and to the world. The most traumatic aspects of all disasters involve the shattering of human connections.
As a result, recovery from trauma and neglect is also all about relationships - rebuilding trust, regaining confidence, returning to a sense of security and reconnecting to love. Of course, medications can help relieve symptoms and talking to a therapist can be incredibly useful. But healing and recovery are impossible - even with the best medications and therapy in the world - without lasting, caring connections to others."
Overall, one of my favorite Psychology reads thus far. Perry offers an astute, humane look into the therapeutic process while also encouraging productive change in the way our society cares for traumatized children. Recommended for anyone interested in kids, psychology, neuroscience, and post-traumatic growth.
"While self-mutilation, too, is often seen as an act of rebellion or attention-seeking, in most cases it is probably better understood as an attempt at self-medication as well. Cutting releases brain opioids, which makes it especially attractive to those who have been previously traumatized and found relief in dissociation. The same is true of people who use drugs like heroin or Oxycontin. Contrary to popular belief, most people who try these drugs do not find them overwhelmingly blissful. In fact, most people don't like the numbing sensation they produce. But those who suffer the after-effects of severe stress and trauma are likely to find the substances soothing and comforting, not deadening."
Perry weaves together neuroscience and human relationships throughout The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog. He discusses the brain's malleability in the early years of development, and he also provides perspective into how healthful relationships can ameliorate people's neurological, physical, and mental health. By delving into a wide array of scenarios - unintentional neglect, constant sexual abuse, cult upbringings, and more - and by treating every child's story with seriousness and tact, Perry reveals his skill as a doctor and as a kind human being. Another passage that stood out to me, about trauma and human relationships:
"Trauma and our responses to it cannot be understood outside the context of human relationships. Whether people have survived an earthquake or have been repeatedly sexual abused, what matters most is how those experiences affect their relationships - to their loved ones, to themselves and to the world. The most traumatic aspects of all disasters involve the shattering of human connections.
As a result, recovery from trauma and neglect is also all about relationships - rebuilding trust, regaining confidence, returning to a sense of security and reconnecting to love. Of course, medications can help relieve symptoms and talking to a therapist can be incredibly useful. But healing and recovery are impossible - even with the best medications and therapy in the world - without lasting, caring connections to others."
Overall, one of my favorite Psychology reads thus far. Perry offers an astute, humane look into the therapeutic process while also encouraging productive change in the way our society cares for traumatized children. Recommended for anyone interested in kids, psychology, neuroscience, and post-traumatic growth.
December 6, 2022
چطور پیداش کردم
با دکتر پری از کتاب مشترکش با اپرا وینفری آشنا شدم. کتابی که اینجا براش ریویو نوشتم. بعد از اون به دنبال کتابهاش گشتم و اسم این کتاب توجهم رو جلب کرد. «پسری که مثل یک سگ بزرگ شده بود» میشه گفت این کتاب مرجع اون محسوب میشه
در مورد چیه
پری یک روانشناس کودکه و تخصصش کار با کودکانیه که ترامای سخت تجربه کردند و آسیبهای شدیدی دیدند. این کتاب در واقع داستان کودکان و نوجوانان مختلف و روش پِری برای درمان اونهاست. داستانهای�� تلخ و گاهی باور نکردنی که اثرشون رو روی کودک گذاشتند و دکتر پری و تیمش از روشهای خاصی برای جبران برخی از این صدمات استفاده میکنند
در این کتاب داستان کودکانی رو میخونیم که سالها مورد تجاوز قرار گرفتند، تا سه سال اول زندگیشون در یک تخت زندگی کردند، در نوزادی ساعتها تنها رها شدند و حتی در قفس سگ بزرگ شدند
چرا کتاب خوبیه
کتاب اطلاعات بسیار زیادی در مورد مغز، رشد انسانها و نحوهی کنار اومدنشون با تراما و استرس بهمون میده و توضیح میده که چه عواملی مثل لمس شدن که در نگاه اول شاید اونقدر مهم به نظر نیان برای سلامت جسمی و روانی یک کودک ضروری هستند
کتاب به درد کی میخوره
کتاب برای پدر و مادرها، کسانی که قراره در آینده فرزند داشته باشند یا کسانی که به تراما و روشهای درمانیش علاقهمند هستند بسیار خواندنیه
نقطه ضعف
تنها ایرادی که میتونم روی این کتاب بگذارم گاهی تکرار بیش از حد و توضیح اضافهست. به طور کلی کِیس استادیها میتونستند مرتبتر و با همپوشانی کمتری نوشته بشن
این کانال جدیدیه که بعد از بسته شدن قبلی درست کردم و کتابها و ریویوها رو اینجا میگذارم
Maede's Books
۱۴۰۱/۹/۴
February 18, 2017
Bruce Perry is an absolute godsend to the hundreds of children and families he's helped. I wish we could clone him. He's absolutely brilliant, charming, empathetic, and has no qualms with thinking outside the box.
August 14, 2012
I borrowed this book from my supervisor when I interned in a pediatric psychiatric hospital, and I pretty much read it in one sitting. The book completely changed the way I looked at patients. Before, I saw them as children who were reacting to terribly traumatic experiences. Now, I understand that the traumatic experiences literally changed the way their brain functions. It explains why so many therapeutic interventions fail; our techniques aren't right. We're treating the cancer with cold medicine. Unless medical facilities and outpatient clinics are given the funding needed to create the right intervention, these children have a much harder battle ahead of them .
May 16, 2008
Bruce Perry treats children who have suffered childhood trauma using a neurosequential approach. This approach supposes that as the brain grows from the most basic deep structures to the most complex outer structures (basically from the inside out and from the bottom up) in the first 3 years of life, trauma at any phase of that development shapes or prevents the proper physiological development of the brain area that is developing. Because the higher brain structure development depends on development in the areas beneath it, trauma in childhood can affect brain development long after. The treatment of these children depends on determining how the trauma sensitized the stress response system and how the children coped with the trauma, such as disassociating, and retraining the brain beginning from when the trauma occurred. This may include rocking, music and movement classes, life skills training, CBT etc. The final chapter gives suggestions for minimizing childhood trauma in our society emphasizing that the breakup of the EXTENDED family and our increasing social isolation are increasing our risk. Appreciate the author's assertion that humaneness is learned, not inborn, that we cannot love ourselves unless we are loved by someone else, and that the key to healthy individuals and society lies in numerous strong relationships. Excellent insightful book.
October 12, 2011
A very impactful read. The most practical thing I think I can take from it is a greater compassion for my fellow men. We really don't know what people have gone through to contribute to who they are. These stories make me not want to judge anyone (some "bad" people experienced trauma and neglect to the degree that their brain was permanently affected). I wish I could do something to make life better for or be a friend to some of these unusual, and socially misfit individuals. Thank goodness many people who experience these types of trauma have some avenues to better their lives.
I believe I could be less judgmental toward a person who commits violent or murderous acts, realizing that they may have experienced trauma so severe that it affected their brain, and all their life decisions. Perhaps many of the most violent in our society are messed up in a way that they are less accountable for their actions. I hope not to have to forgive such people... but if I cross paths with them or am harmed (or loved ones are harmed) by them, I hope to have a merciful attitude.
I believe I could be less judgmental toward a person who commits violent or murderous acts, realizing that they may have experienced trauma so severe that it affected their brain, and all their life decisions. Perhaps many of the most violent in our society are messed up in a way that they are less accountable for their actions. I hope not to have to forgive such people... but if I cross paths with them or am harmed (or loved ones are harmed) by them, I hope to have a merciful attitude.
September 11, 2022
Kao specijalizantkinja dječije psihijatrije koja je tek na početku svog učenja, mogu samo reći da je ova knjiga zlata vrijedna i da mi je sigurno pokazala i ukazala na pristup kakav ja želim da imam sa pacijentima, otkrila mnoge meni interesantne podatke kojima sebi mogu lakše da objasnim i ponašanje odraslih ljudi iz mog okruženja, koje mogu da iskoristim u budućnosti i uz koje će mi praktično učenje biti povezanije! Posljednje 3 priče su me iskreno rasplakale, oduševile, pokazale koliko je bitno naći prave ljude, pravu podršku i biti hrabar, istinski hrabar i spasiti sebe! Za kraj, napisaću rečenicu iz knjige koja važi za sve ljude, ne samo za male pacijente- međuljudski odnosi su pokretačka snaga promjene, a ljubav je najdjelotvornija terapija! Najsjajnijih 5⭐️ ikad i veliko hvala dr Periju na podijeljenom znanju!
April 9, 2019
Non-fiction books, as a general rule, bore me.
The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dogis a non-fiction book.
The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog did not bore me.
To the contrary, it fascinated me. It incited a hundred different emotions that I didn't think was possible with a non-fiction book. It made me smile; made me cry. It punched me right in the chest and soothed me the next. It was utter perfection.
The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog is a book of beauty and one of the most beautiful things about it was how the author wrote it for everyone, from the simpletons of this worlds (AKA me) to general practitioners of psychiatry to understand. Most non-fiction books are written under the assumption that their readers will know what they're talking about or at the very least have the basic level of knowledge.
So because, I had no inkling about neurology or child psychiatry, I went into TBWWRAAD with more than a little trepidation. But I didn't need to worry. Everything was explained to me succintly. I understood all of it.The language wasn't "dumbed" down nor were the concepts introduced in TBWWRAAD simplified in any way. It was simply written to be understood.
The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog is something I would recommend to everyone for a five-star read. There was so much I learned from reading this. The detailed explanations of how the brain works and the examples that the author put in there made me realize how significant trauma can be and how seriously it could impact a young child's mind.
Five Stars
As a sidenote, I would say this is good material for the Nature v.s Nurture debate. A good source.
The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dogis a non-fiction book.
The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog did not bore me.
To the contrary, it fascinated me. It incited a hundred different emotions that I didn't think was possible with a non-fiction book. It made me smile; made me cry. It punched me right in the chest and soothed me the next. It was utter perfection.
The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog is a book of beauty and one of the most beautiful things about it was how the author wrote it for everyone, from the simpletons of this worlds (AKA me) to general practitioners of psychiatry to understand. Most non-fiction books are written under the assumption that their readers will know what they're talking about or at the very least have the basic level of knowledge.
So because, I had no inkling about neurology or child psychiatry, I went into TBWWRAAD with more than a little trepidation. But I didn't need to worry. Everything was explained to me succintly. I understood all of it.The language wasn't "dumbed" down nor were the concepts introduced in TBWWRAAD simplified in any way. It was simply written to be understood.
The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog is something I would recommend to everyone for a five-star read. There was so much I learned from reading this. The detailed explanations of how the brain works and the examples that the author put in there made me realize how significant trauma can be and how seriously it could impact a young child's mind.
Five Stars
As a sidenote, I would say this is good material for the Nature v.s Nurture debate. A good source.
July 22, 2018
This book has almost no redeeming qualities. In fact, its primary worth is undoubtedly as a clear example of multiple cultural failings.
1. It is the most obvious, cringe-worthy trauma porn. It is primarily a titillated retelling of the most horrifying situations. It is a collection of carnival sideshows to chill and entertain the masses.
2. Perry has a Savior Complex to make Jesus blush. In every story, there will be a Suffering Child. In every story, no other person will understand, will listen, will gain the child's trust. But then, here he comes to save the day! The mighty Perry!
3. All of the "science" in this book is garbage. He literally has four scientific concepts in his grasp: mirror neurons, hyperarousal, disassociation, and evolution. The "brain science" is just readily observable facts about the human experience (eg, "when stress is unpredictable, it's more stressful"), sloppily paired with rat studies. And his assertions about human evolution are childishly over-confident and painfully post hoc.
4. Perry repeatedly tells stories in which he undertook, in a professional capacity, to do things he was unqualified to do, and then goes on to make himself the hero of those stories. That's not heroism. It's malpractice.
5. Everything that Perry "discovers" about working with traumatized children could only count as a discovery by the most socially inept, non-empathetic person imaginable. Any skilled mother or nurse would count all of his "research" as common knowledge. Leave it to a white man to give himself credit for "discovering" that children need structure, affection, and safety, or that beating or intimidating a child will not help them recover from abuse.
1. It is the most obvious, cringe-worthy trauma porn. It is primarily a titillated retelling of the most horrifying situations. It is a collection of carnival sideshows to chill and entertain the masses.
2. Perry has a Savior Complex to make Jesus blush. In every story, there will be a Suffering Child. In every story, no other person will understand, will listen, will gain the child's trust. But then, here he comes to save the day! The mighty Perry!
3. All of the "science" in this book is garbage. He literally has four scientific concepts in his grasp: mirror neurons, hyperarousal, disassociation, and evolution. The "brain science" is just readily observable facts about the human experience (eg, "when stress is unpredictable, it's more stressful"), sloppily paired with rat studies. And his assertions about human evolution are childishly over-confident and painfully post hoc.
4. Perry repeatedly tells stories in which he undertook, in a professional capacity, to do things he was unqualified to do, and then goes on to make himself the hero of those stories. That's not heroism. It's malpractice.
5. Everything that Perry "discovers" about working with traumatized children could only count as a discovery by the most socially inept, non-empathetic person imaginable. Any skilled mother or nurse would count all of his "research" as common knowledge. Leave it to a white man to give himself credit for "discovering" that children need structure, affection, and safety, or that beating or intimidating a child will not help them recover from abuse.
July 11, 2012
This was recommended to me by a colleague. I thought it would be a disturbing read and put of off for ages, however despite some of the horrendous cases, the book is not a shock and awe text. It’s actually quite uplifting. Dr Perry has a gifted way of explaining the connections between trauma, neuroscience and psychotherapy, which is accessible to the lay reader. His model of recovery assumes that children can be healed by receiving the stimulation they missed at certain developmental points. E.g. if a child misses physical stimulation at 6 months due to neglect, this can be healed by the child receiving the chronologically matched stimulation at a later stage, say 7 years old. He provides the science/brain imaging to back this theory up. It is truly fascinating. His explanations about how he creatively and gently connected to each child and fostered their healing, is warm, engaging and beautifully compassionate. The book also cautions us before we judge misguided caregivers in cases of child neglect.
September 2, 2023
Šią knygą man paskolino mano psichologė, nes esu patyręs baisių traumų vaikystėje. Dėl to turiu disociacinį asmenybės sutrikimą (DID), kuris yra kai žmogus turi daug asmenybių vietoj vienos ir jas dažnai skiria amnezijos barjeras. Psichologė sakė, kad knyga nebus lengva skaityti, reikės ir padėti į šoną, kad „suvirškinti“ informaciją. Taip, skaitant buvau šokiruotas dauguma autoriaus pateiktų vaikų istorijomis. Skaitant knygą ieškojau atsakymų į savo traumų priežastis.
Mane labiausiai palietė Tinos istorija, nes jau ankstyvoje vaikystėje elgiausi nederamai kaip ir ji: žaidžiau seksualinius žaidimus su viena jaunesne drauge, apsinuogindavau prieš šeimos narius, nuolat kalbėjau apie visokius seksualinius dalykus. Knygoje Tina patyrė seksualinę prievartą dėl to ėmė taip elgtis. Ji taip pat negalėdavo susikaupti mokykloje. Tad viena citata man atvėrė akis: „Viskas logiška: itin aktyvią streso sistemą turintis žmogus dėmesį sutelkia į mokytojų ir klasės draugų veidus, kur gali slypėti grėsmė, tačiau ne į tokius nekaltus dalykus kaip pamokos mokykloje.“ Aš visada galvojau, kad turiu ADHD ir dėl to negaliu susikaupti, esu išsiblaškęs, bet pasirodo mano streso sistema yra itin aktyvi. Taip, mokykloje kreipiau dėmesį tik į kylančias grėsmes mano saugumui. Tad Tinos istoriją skaičiau atidžiausiai. Man ji buvo labai artima.
Sendės istorija buvo kraupi, bet nejutau jokios asociacijos su ja. Autorius paaiškina disociaciją labai gerai, būtent tai nuolat jaučiu patekęs į stresinę situaciją. Tik mano atveju disociacija reiškia, jog „persijungiu“ į kitą asmenybę, kad apsaugoti savo psichiką. Dovydo vaikai visai manęs nesudomino ir nesigilinau į šią istoriją. Man ji svetima. Tai apie išgelbėtus vaikus nuo sektos žiaurumų. Lauros istorija buvo šiek tiek artima man, tad skaičiau susidomėjęs, nes ir pats turėjau valgymo sutrikimų prieš keletą metų.
Paauglys Leonas mane šokiravo ir buvo tikrai baisu skaityti, kodėl jis atsidūrė kalėjime, bet asmeniškai ši tema manęs irgi nepalietė. Bet skaityti buvo įdomu, nes Leono vaikystė buvo panaši į manąją – mane nuolat palikdavo vieną, rėkdavau, verkdavau kol suvokiau, kad niekas vis tiek neateis. Gal dėl to ir nemoku reikšti emocijų... Bet tai ko gero buvo pirmieji būsimos šizofrenijos požymiai. Autorius aprašė ir autizmą, o skaitant atrodo skaičiau apie save. Aš taip pat nepakenčiu ryškios šviesos ir triukšmo, turiu nukarpyti visas drabužių etiketes, nes jos mane erzina, esu apsėstas kam tikrų dalykų, kuriuos puikiai išmanau. Be to nematau poreikio bendrauti su kitais žmonėmis. Niekada neturėjau daug draugų, o net ir tuos, kuriuos turiu – dažnai ignoruoju. Bet Leonas tikras sociopatas – dėl to jo istoriją man buvo kraupu skaityti.
Džastinas – berniukas, kurį augino kaip šunį mane šokiravo. Prisiminiau nesenai skaitytą Kristin Hannah romaną „Stebuklinga valanda“. Konoro istorija man irgi artima, nes berniukas buvo paliekamas vienui vienas būdamas kūdikis. Tad ir skaityti buvo įdomu. Apie šėtono garbintojus nebuvo įdomu skaityti. Amberės istorija mane ITIN palietė. Nes ji save žalojo ir patyrė disociaciją kaip aš. Tad šį skyrių skaičiau labai susidomėjęs. Džeimso istorija buvo trumpa, apie jo įmotės Miunhauzeno sindromą. Piterio istorija buvo liūdna, nes iš Rusijoje būdamas kūdikiu buvo laikomas lovelėje iki trejų metukų.
Rekomenduoju visiems patyrusiems traumų ir/ar turintiems vaikų.
Mane labiausiai palietė Tinos istorija, nes jau ankstyvoje vaikystėje elgiausi nederamai kaip ir ji: žaidžiau seksualinius žaidimus su viena jaunesne drauge, apsinuogindavau prieš šeimos narius, nuolat kalbėjau apie visokius seksualinius dalykus. Knygoje Tina patyrė seksualinę prievartą dėl to ėmė taip elgtis. Ji taip pat negalėdavo susikaupti mokykloje. Tad viena citata man atvėrė akis: „Viskas logiška: itin aktyvią streso sistemą turintis žmogus dėmesį sutelkia į mokytojų ir klasės draugų veidus, kur gali slypėti grėsmė, tačiau ne į tokius nekaltus dalykus kaip pamokos mokykloje.“ Aš visada galvojau, kad turiu ADHD ir dėl to negaliu susikaupti, esu išsiblaškęs, bet pasirodo mano streso sistema yra itin aktyvi. Taip, mokykloje kreipiau dėmesį tik į kylančias grėsmes mano saugumui. Tad Tinos istoriją skaičiau atidžiausiai. Man ji buvo labai artima.
Sendės istorija buvo kraupi, bet nejutau jokios asociacijos su ja. Autorius paaiškina disociaciją labai gerai, būtent tai nuolat jaučiu patekęs į stresinę situaciją. Tik mano atveju disociacija reiškia, jog „persijungiu“ į kitą asmenybę, kad apsaugoti savo psichiką. Dovydo vaikai visai manęs nesudomino ir nesigilinau į šią istoriją. Man ji svetima. Tai apie išgelbėtus vaikus nuo sektos žiaurumų. Lauros istorija buvo šiek tiek artima man, tad skaičiau susidomėjęs, nes ir pats turėjau valgymo sutrikimų prieš keletą metų.
Paauglys Leonas mane šokiravo ir buvo tikrai baisu skaityti, kodėl jis atsidūrė kalėjime, bet asmeniškai ši tema manęs irgi nepalietė. Bet skaityti buvo įdomu, nes Leono vaikystė buvo panaši į manąją – mane nuolat palikdavo vieną, rėkdavau, verkdavau kol suvokiau, kad niekas vis tiek neateis. Gal dėl to ir nemoku reikšti emocijų... Bet tai ko gero buvo pirmieji būsimos šizofrenijos požymiai. Autorius aprašė ir autizmą, o skaitant atrodo skaičiau apie save. Aš taip pat nepakenčiu ryškios šviesos ir triukšmo, turiu nukarpyti visas drabužių etiketes, nes jos mane erzina, esu apsėstas kam tikrų dalykų, kuriuos puikiai išmanau. Be to nematau poreikio bendrauti su kitais žmonėmis. Niekada neturėjau daug draugų, o net ir tuos, kuriuos turiu – dažnai ignoruoju. Bet Leonas tikras sociopatas – dėl to jo istoriją man buvo kraupu skaityti.
Džastinas – berniukas, kurį augino kaip šunį mane šokiravo. Prisiminiau nesenai skaitytą Kristin Hannah romaną „Stebuklinga valanda“. Konoro istorija man irgi artima, nes berniukas buvo paliekamas vienui vienas būdamas kūdikis. Tad ir skaityti buvo įdomu. Apie šėtono garbintojus nebuvo įdomu skaityti. Amberės istorija mane ITIN palietė. Nes ji save žalojo ir patyrė disociaciją kaip aš. Tad šį skyrių skaičiau labai susidomėjęs. Džeimso istorija buvo trumpa, apie jo įmotės Miunhauzeno sindromą. Piterio istorija buvo liūdna, nes iš Rusijoje būdamas kūdikiu buvo laikomas lovelėje iki trejų metukų.
Rekomenduoju visiems patyrusiems traumų ir/ar turintiems vaikų.
January 4, 2020
Heralde en zor, en yıpratıcı mesleklerden birine mensup Bruce Perry. Babacan tavırlarla anlatımı, her vakaya objektif yaklaşması, problemin nerelerde olduğunu ve nasıl çözülebileceğini anlatmasıyla yazarın kişiliğinin de farkına varıyorsunuz. Bu doktora denk gelen travma kurbanları kesinlikle şanslı. Vakaların çoğu canınızı acıtıyor, özellikle hayatlarının başlarında ihmalkarlığa uğrayan çocuklar...
August 18, 2008
Perry refutes the adage that children are resilient, and walks us through the cases of traumatized children -- the consequences on their psyches and behavior, and how to heal them.
A few minutes of stress for baby rats can affect their brain into adulthood. Yet these children are expected to handle abuse, witnessing the murder of a parent, systematic neglect... What seems to affect them the most is the lack of love, even while medical diagnoses are offered. A disruptive girl has ADD, of course. But Perry is more concerned about the two years of abuse she suffered.
One mother, who moved foster homes every six months, fails to provide physical affection to her child, and the girl is hailed as the first case of infantile anorexia when her growth halts. Perry helps the mother learn to become more demonstrative; the child begins to thrive again. But:
"Like those who learn a foreign language late in life, Virginia and Laura will never speak the language of love without an accent."
A few minutes of stress for baby rats can affect their brain into adulthood. Yet these children are expected to handle abuse, witnessing the murder of a parent, systematic neglect... What seems to affect them the most is the lack of love, even while medical diagnoses are offered. A disruptive girl has ADD, of course. But Perry is more concerned about the two years of abuse she suffered.
One mother, who moved foster homes every six months, fails to provide physical affection to her child, and the girl is hailed as the first case of infantile anorexia when her growth halts. Perry helps the mother learn to become more demonstrative; the child begins to thrive again. But:
"Like those who learn a foreign language late in life, Virginia and Laura will never speak the language of love without an accent."
February 5, 2010
really interesting, heart wrenching stories. favorite quotes:
"More than in any other species, human young are born vulnerable and dependent. Pregnancy and early childhood are tremendous energy drains on the mother and, indirectly, on the larger family group. But despite the severe pain of childbirth, the numerous discomforts of pregnancy and breast-feeding, and the loud, continuous demands of a newborn, human mothers overwhelmingly tend to devote themselves to comforting, feeding an protecting their young. Indeed, most do so happily; we find it pathological when one does not.
To a Martian--or even to many nonparents--this behavior might seem like a mystery. What could prompt parents to give up sleep, sex, friends, personal time and virtually every other pleasure in life to meet the demands of a a small, often irritatingly noisy, incontinent, needy being? The secret is that caring for children, is, in many ways, indescribably pleasurable. Our brains rewards us for interacting with our children, especially infants: their scent, the cooing sounds the y make when they are calm, their smooth skin and especially, their faces are designed to fill us with joy. What we call "cuteness" is actually an evolutionary adaptation that helps ensure that parents will care for their children, that babies will get their needs met, and parents will take on this seemingly thankless task with pleasure."
"More than in any other species, human young are born vulnerable and dependent. Pregnancy and early childhood are tremendous energy drains on the mother and, indirectly, on the larger family group. But despite the severe pain of childbirth, the numerous discomforts of pregnancy and breast-feeding, and the loud, continuous demands of a newborn, human mothers overwhelmingly tend to devote themselves to comforting, feeding an protecting their young. Indeed, most do so happily; we find it pathological when one does not.
To a Martian--or even to many nonparents--this behavior might seem like a mystery. What could prompt parents to give up sleep, sex, friends, personal time and virtually every other pleasure in life to meet the demands of a a small, often irritatingly noisy, incontinent, needy being? The secret is that caring for children, is, in many ways, indescribably pleasurable. Our brains rewards us for interacting with our children, especially infants: their scent, the cooing sounds the y make when they are calm, their smooth skin and especially, their faces are designed to fill us with joy. What we call "cuteness" is actually an evolutionary adaptation that helps ensure that parents will care for their children, that babies will get their needs met, and parents will take on this seemingly thankless task with pleasure."
July 22, 2017
This book is incredibly frustrating - the information is valuable and intriguing, but the tone makes me cringe. This author is a well intentioned (aren't they all?) white dude who's seemingly pretty proud of himself for wearing jeans and thus "not looking the type" etc etc. I found the tone so condescending it was hard to read, and skimmed some paragraphs.
The worthwhile part of the book, though, is the scientific parts that talk about the physical concrete parts of the brain and the research on trauma.
The worthwhile part of the book, though, is the scientific parts that talk about the physical concrete parts of the brain and the research on trauma.
February 28, 2020
Me ha sobrado currículum y que los diagnósticos sean tan repetitivos porque, obviamente, la base es la misma en todos, y no veo la necesidad de hablar constantemente de crianza, apego, tept, etc. Eso sí, los casos son muy interesantes y muy, muy duros.
June 22, 2021
Absolutely no notes. This is a must-read for all humans. It's also insanely short. Just read it.
June 17, 2021
Reč je o zbirci u kojoj su pobrojani neki od slučajeva dečjeg psihijatra Brusa Perija, njegov prvi slučaj i neki drugi zanimljivi putem kojih je predstavio metodu neurosekvencijalnog tretmana.
Rad sa decom koja su bila zapostavljena ili na drugi načim duboko traumatizovana kroz knjigu je predstavljen kroz ponašanje dece i pojašnjenja onogo što se nakon traume događa u njihovom mozgu što im postavlja nove obrasce ponašanja kojima deca ponovo pokušavaju da uspostave relaciju sa svetom.
U knjizi se nekoliko puta ponovilo kako je mozak zapravo istorijski organ. Ta mi se misao veoma dopala.
"On pohranjuje u sebi našu životnu priču. Doživljaji iz našeg života oblikuju nas kao osobe tako što dovode do toga da se u našem mozgu kreira katalog memorijskih predložaka koji upravljaju našim ponašanjem, ponekad na način koji možemo svesno prepoznati ali češće pomoću procesa koji ne dopiru do naše svesti."
Priče, odnosno, slučajevi iz knjige su bolni, nose gorčinu i bude duboko saosećanje. Situacije su teške, duboko nehumane i duboko utkane u ta bića koja su na putu do odrastanja. Peri pokušava da na tim pobrojanim primerima prikaže kako svi ti memorijski predlošci utiču na čoveka i odnos prema svetu. Kako najbolje uviđamo baš kada se susrećemo sa okrutnim primerima, tako knjiga iznedruje duboku zapitanost nad sobom i onim što smo postali zahvaljući našem istorijskom organu koji je usvojio naše odbrambene i druge obrasce.
Za svaku preporuku onima koje ova oblast zanima i one koji imaju jači želudac.
Rad sa decom koja su bila zapostavljena ili na drugi načim duboko traumatizovana kroz knjigu je predstavljen kroz ponašanje dece i pojašnjenja onogo što se nakon traume događa u njihovom mozgu što im postavlja nove obrasce ponašanja kojima deca ponovo pokušavaju da uspostave relaciju sa svetom.
U knjizi se nekoliko puta ponovilo kako je mozak zapravo istorijski organ. Ta mi se misao veoma dopala.
"On pohranjuje u sebi našu životnu priču. Doživljaji iz našeg života oblikuju nas kao osobe tako što dovode do toga da se u našem mozgu kreira katalog memorijskih predložaka koji upravljaju našim ponašanjem, ponekad na način koji možemo svesno prepoznati ali češće pomoću procesa koji ne dopiru do naše svesti."
Priče, odnosno, slučajevi iz knjige su bolni, nose gorčinu i bude duboko saosećanje. Situacije su teške, duboko nehumane i duboko utkane u ta bića koja su na putu do odrastanja. Peri pokušava da na tim pobrojanim primerima prikaže kako svi ti memorijski predlošci utiču na čoveka i odnos prema svetu. Kako najbolje uviđamo baš kada se susrećemo sa okrutnim primerima, tako knjiga iznedruje duboku zapitanost nad sobom i onim što smo postali zahvaljući našem istorijskom organu koji je usvojio naše odbrambene i druge obrasce.
Za svaku preporuku onima koje ova oblast zanima i one koji imaju jači želudac.
September 4, 2019
This was such an incredibly eye opening, powerful and painful read. This is definitely not something everybody would want to read, as it centres around child abuse (a substantial amount of detail regarding child sexual abuse); but the effect of trauma on brain development and behaviour is incredible. (There is also a LOT of anatomy and physiology of the brain talk, so that may become a little dull for some).
I was recommended this book for my Child Development class and I’m so glad I read it. It has completely changed my perspective of the effect of trauma, and the way in which it should be regarded and treated. I have the upmost respect for Dr. Perry, his methods and this book.
I was recommended this book for my Child Development class and I’m so glad I read it. It has completely changed my perspective of the effect of trauma, and the way in which it should be regarded and treated. I have the upmost respect for Dr. Perry, his methods and this book.
July 12, 2023
Väga põnev ja ennekõike õpetlik lugemine, mis ootamatult osutab tervikuna ühiskonna teravatele valukohtadele läbi ekstreemsete laste väärkohtlemise juhtumite - enne raamatut mõtled, et sukeldud kaugesse maailma, millega (õnneks) endal kokkupuudet ei ole ja mis kaugeks peaks jäämagi; raamatut lõpetades mõtled tõsiselt, kuidas inimesena ja kogukonnana olla homme tõeliselt parem kui eile. Kindel lugemissoovitus. Ja mitte ainult inimestele, kellel on endal lapsed vm kokkupuude lastega.
August 11, 2010
"The truth is, you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation."
"Many of the sleeping and crying problems seen in infancy today are likely caused by the fact that a human infant left alone and out of sight distance of adults for almost the entire evolutionary history of humankind would have been facing near-certain death. It's hardly surprising that babies find being left alone to sleep distressing. In fact, what's startling (and what reflects the adaptability of the human brain) is how quickly so many get used to it."
"Troubled children are in some kind of pain--and pain makes people irritable, anxious and aggressive. Only patient, loving, consistent care work; there are no short-term miracle cures."
"...the more you try to see the world from the child's point of view and the safer you make him feel, the better his behavior is likely to be and the more likely you are to find ways of further improving it."
"The brain changes in response to patterned, repetitive experiences: the more you repeat something, the more engrained it becomes. This means that, because it takes time to accumulate repetitions, recovery takes time and patience is called for as these repetitions continue. The longer the period of trauma, or the more extreme the trauma, the greater the number of repetitions required to regain balance."
"Many of the sleeping and crying problems seen in infancy today are likely caused by the fact that a human infant left alone and out of sight distance of adults for almost the entire evolutionary history of humankind would have been facing near-certain death. It's hardly surprising that babies find being left alone to sleep distressing. In fact, what's startling (and what reflects the adaptability of the human brain) is how quickly so many get used to it."
"Troubled children are in some kind of pain--and pain makes people irritable, anxious and aggressive. Only patient, loving, consistent care work; there are no short-term miracle cures."
"...the more you try to see the world from the child's point of view and the safer you make him feel, the better his behavior is likely to be and the more likely you are to find ways of further improving it."
"The brain changes in response to patterned, repetitive experiences: the more you repeat something, the more engrained it becomes. This means that, because it takes time to accumulate repetitions, recovery takes time and patience is called for as these repetitions continue. The longer the period of trauma, or the more extreme the trauma, the greater the number of repetitions required to regain balance."
January 10, 2016
"Incredibly eye-opening on the effects of trauma."
What did you love best about The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog?
This book is a must read for anyone who works with children......and anyone who suffered trauma as a child. Dr. Perry is incredibly insightful, honest and humble in sharing what it took him a career to learn. I hope everyone in the mental health fields and their supporting agencies heed his teachings.
What did you like best about this story?
I read this to improve my understanding of trauma in working in my profession. What I got was much, much more! I was able to better understand the effects of my own childhood trauma on my brain, helping me to access more self compassion.
What does Danny Campbell bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?
Danny was able to transmit the emotion relayed in this book beautifully. I actually thought the author had read it (until I checked about 3/4 of the way through listening) because the performance and relating of the stories was so spot on.
Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?
The author was able to weave his humanity into the stories of working with severe cases of abuse, going beyond the 'professional' expectations and even risk his career to do what he knew in his heart was right.
Any additional comments?
Grab this book, it just may change your life or the life of someone you love!
What did you love best about The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog?
This book is a must read for anyone who works with children......and anyone who suffered trauma as a child. Dr. Perry is incredibly insightful, honest and humble in sharing what it took him a career to learn. I hope everyone in the mental health fields and their supporting agencies heed his teachings.
What did you like best about this story?
I read this to improve my understanding of trauma in working in my profession. What I got was much, much more! I was able to better understand the effects of my own childhood trauma on my brain, helping me to access more self compassion.
What does Danny Campbell bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?
Danny was able to transmit the emotion relayed in this book beautifully. I actually thought the author had read it (until I checked about 3/4 of the way through listening) because the performance and relating of the stories was so spot on.
Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?
The author was able to weave his humanity into the stories of working with severe cases of abuse, going beyond the 'professional' expectations and even risk his career to do what he knew in his heart was right.
Any additional comments?
Grab this book, it just may change your life or the life of someone you love!
August 15, 2018
İlk vakayı okuduktan sonra kitabı bırakmayı düşündüm çünkü, hiç bir öneri getirmiyordu. Sadece bir çocuğun ağır travmasını anlatıyor, ve "ona yardımcı olamadık" diyip bitiriyordu. Hayal kırıklığına uğramıştım.
Sonra Goodreads ve amazon'daki yorumları okuyunca bir şans daha vereyim dedim ve sonrasında kitabı elimden bırakamadım.
Özellikle erken çocuk travmalarına ilişkin çok şey anlatan bir kitap. Yakın zamana kadar çocuk travmalarına ilişkin bu kadar az çalışma olmasına şaşarak okudum. Kitapta ayrıca bu alandaki gelişimin yakın tarihini de aktarıyor. Aslında halen çok az şey biliyoruz.
Köpek gibi büyütülmüş çocuk, sadece vakalardan biri. Diğer 8 vaka, en az kitaba ismini veren kadar ilgi çekici ve öğretici. Vakaların ardından, yeni baskı için yapılmış ekler çok bütünleyici olmuş. Vakalara 10-20 yıllık perspektiften bakıyor ve güncelliyor.
Bu kitabı sevenlere, okumadılarsa, Oliver Saks'ın kitaplarını da öneririm.
Sonra Goodreads ve amazon'daki yorumları okuyunca bir şans daha vereyim dedim ve sonrasında kitabı elimden bırakamadım.
Özellikle erken çocuk travmalarına ilişkin çok şey anlatan bir kitap. Yakın zamana kadar çocuk travmalarına ilişkin bu kadar az çalışma olmasına şaşarak okudum. Kitapta ayrıca bu alandaki gelişimin yakın tarihini de aktarıyor. Aslında halen çok az şey biliyoruz.
Köpek gibi büyütülmüş çocuk, sadece vakalardan biri. Diğer 8 vaka, en az kitaba ismini veren kadar ilgi çekici ve öğretici. Vakaların ardından, yeni baskı için yapılmış ekler çok bütünleyici olmuş. Vakalara 10-20 yıllık perspektiften bakıyor ve güncelliyor.
Bu kitabı sevenlere, okumadılarsa, Oliver Saks'ın kitaplarını da öneririm.
October 21, 2008
This book should be read by everyone who cares for children professionally. We know that children are abused and suffer, yet when we meet some of these children we often don't understand how to help them. This book of stories from Doctor Perry's practice shows us children who come from backgrounds of neglect or abuse. These stories tear at your heart, but knowing that Doctor Perry and others are using what we know about neuroscience to heal offers us hope. If anything, reading this book will make you realize the amazing power of touch in your own life. (And you can go out and use touch to help heal the world:)
Some people I have recommended this book to in the fields of health and childcare say that they couldn't read it because it sounds too upsetting. I think that if you work with children and you want to live in a "my little pony land" you will be hurting those who need you most. You can't help children and work toward changing the world for children if you remain ignorant.
Some people I have recommended this book to in the fields of health and childcare say that they couldn't read it because it sounds too upsetting. I think that if you work with children and you want to live in a "my little pony land" you will be hurting those who need you most. You can't help children and work toward changing the world for children if you remain ignorant.
January 16, 2020
ประทับใจขั้นสุด ให้ 10 ดาว
สะเทือนใจ เศร้า ซึ้ง ในขณะเดียวกันก้อรู้สึกมีความหวังในชีวิต และได้รับความรู้แบบแน่นๆไปพร้อมกัน ทำให้เราเข้าใจการทำงานของสมองหลังจากประสบ trauma (เหตุการณ์สะเทือนใจ) และ neglect ผลที่เกิดขึ้นกับสมองในระดับจิตใต้สำนึก และแนวทางการรักษา รวมถึงเหตุผลว่าทำไมความรัก/การสัมผัสถึงสำคัญกับเด็ก(และผู้ใหญ่) ขนาดนี้ โดยอ้างอิงถึงพัฒนาการทางสมองและวิวัฒนาการของมนุษย์ ฯลฯ โดยถ่ายทอดให้เข้าใจง่าย ถึงแม้โดยหลักแล้ว เป็นเรื่องราวเกี่ยวกับเด็กๆที่ประสบ trauma/neglect แต่สุดท้ายแล้วมันสามารถเชื่อมโยงถึงทุกคนได้ และทำให้เราเข้าใจตัวเองมากขึ้น
อดไม่ได้ที่จะอ่านแล้วจะนึกถึงเหตุการณ์ที่คนกำลังให้ความสนใจในบ้านเรา คือ เรื่องโจรปล้นร้านทองที่ลพบุรี ซึ่งมีความคล้ายกันกับเคสเคสนึงที่ผู้เขียนนำมาเล่า ผู้เขียนบอกว่าการที่คนคนนึงจะสามารถฆ่าคนอื่นได้อย่างเลือดเย็น มันน้อยมากที่จะไม่มี early life neglect หรือ childhood chronic trauma/violence เข้ามาเกี่ยวข้อง การที่เค้าไม่มีความรู้สึกผิดใดๆเนี่ย มันเกี่ยวข้องกับการทำงานของสมองที่พัฒนาบกพร่องจากสิ่งแวดล้อมตั้งแต่ยังเป็นทารก/เด็กน้อย แต่ในขณะเดียวกันไม่ได้หมายความว่าคนคนนั้นไม่ต้องรับผิดชอบต่อการกระทำของตนเอง มนุษย์แทบทุกคนล้วนเป็นส่วนผสมของพันธุรรม สิ่งแวดล้อม และ free will ไม่ใช่ว่าทุ��คนที่มีบาดแผลทางจิตใจจะต้องลงเอยแบบนี้ เพียงแต่ว่าเรื่องราวบางอย่างมันมีหลายแง่มุมให้ศึกษา เพื่อที่เราจะได้เข้าใจสาเหตุ และป้องกันมันได้ยังไงบ้าง
จำได้ว่าตอนเห็นหนังสือเล่มนี้ครั้งแรกที่ร้าน หยิบขึ้นมาอ่านปกหลังแล้วรู้สึกว่าเนื้อหาน่าสนใจ แต่ไม่กล้าซื้อเพราะชื่อหนังสือฟังดูน่ากลัว น่าสะเทือนใจ 'เด็กชายที่ถูกเลี้ยงดูมาเยี่ยงสุนัข' เนี่ยนะ หยึยยย แต่พอเวลาผ่���นไปก็ทนรีวิวที่ดีงามมากๆ ไม่ไหว สุดท้ายไม่เสียใจเลย แต่ดันเสียใจที่ตอนแรก "judge a book by its title" ฮืออ
สะเทือนใจ เศร้า ซึ้ง ในขณะเดียวกันก้อรู้สึกมีความหวังในชีวิต และได้รับความรู้แบบแน่นๆไปพร้อมกัน ทำให้เราเข้าใจการทำงานของสมองหลังจากประสบ trauma (เหตุการณ์สะเทือนใจ) และ neglect ผลที่เกิดขึ้นกับสมองในระดับจิตใต้สำนึก และแนวทางการรักษา รวมถึงเหตุผลว่าทำไมความรัก/การสัมผัสถึงสำคัญกับเด็ก(และผู้ใหญ่) ขนาดนี้ โดยอ้างอิงถึงพัฒนาการทางสมองและวิวัฒนาการของมนุษย์ ฯลฯ โดยถ่ายทอดให้เข้าใจง่าย ถึงแม้โดยหลักแล้ว เป็นเรื่องราวเกี่ยวกับเด็กๆที่ประสบ trauma/neglect แต่สุดท้ายแล้วมันสามารถเชื่อมโยงถึงทุกคนได้ และทำให้เราเข้าใจตัวเองมากขึ้น
อดไม่ได้ที่จะอ่านแล้วจะนึกถึงเหตุการณ์ที่คนกำลังให้ความสนใจในบ้านเรา คือ เรื่องโจรปล้นร้านทองที่ลพบุรี ซึ่งมีความคล้ายกันกับเคสเคสนึงที่ผู้เขียนนำมาเล่า ผู้เขียนบอกว่าการที่คนคนนึงจะสามารถฆ่าคนอื่นได้อย่างเลือดเย็น มันน้อยมากที่จะไม่มี early life neglect หรือ childhood chronic trauma/violence เข้ามาเกี่ยวข้อง การที่เค้าไม่มีความรู้สึกผิดใดๆเนี่ย มันเกี่ยวข้องกับการทำงานของสมองที่พัฒนาบกพร่องจากสิ่งแวดล้อมตั้งแต่ยังเป็นทารก/เด็กน้อย แต่ในขณะเดียวกันไม่ได้หมายความว่าคนคนนั้นไม่ต้องรับผิดชอบต่อการกระทำของตนเอง มนุษย์แทบทุกคนล้วนเป็นส่วนผสมของพันธุรรม สิ่งแวดล้อม และ free will ไม่ใช่ว่าทุ��คนที่มีบาดแผลทางจิตใจจะต้องลงเอยแบบนี้ เพียงแต่ว่าเรื่องราวบางอย่างมันมีหลายแง่มุมให้ศึกษา เพื่อที่เราจะได้เข้าใจสาเหตุ และป้องกันมันได้ยังไงบ้าง
จำได้ว่าตอนเห็นหนังสือเล่มนี้ครั้งแรกที่ร้าน หยิบขึ้นมาอ่านปกหลังแล้วรู้สึกว่าเนื้อหาน่าสนใจ แต่ไม่กล้าซื้อเพราะชื่อหนังสือฟังดูน่ากลัว น่าสะเทือนใจ 'เด็กชายที่ถูกเลี้ยงดูมาเยี่ยงสุนัข' เนี่ยนะ หยึยยย แต่พอเวลาผ่���นไปก็ทนรีวิวที่ดีงามมากๆ ไม่ไหว สุดท้ายไม่เสียใจเลย แต่ดันเสียใจที่ตอนแรก "judge a book by its title" ฮืออ
December 11, 2023
As someone that works and lives outside of the medical field, this book served as a call to empathy and community. The amount of understanding that the psychiatric community rapidly developed about childhood trauma (internal to the discipline and externally educating other fields and workers) in the span of Dr. Perry’s career is astounding. There are still large institutional and systemic barriers (limitations with the justice system and other governmental agencies) to overcome, but it seems our developing understanding contributes less and less to the undue harm and suffering of traumatized children.
My favorite part of the book was a beautiful notion posited by Dr. Perry: we are the main medium through which we are traumatized, but we are also the main medium through which we are healed. Humans hurt humans, yes, but humans heal humans. Suffering is inevitable. Hope abounds!
This book was hard to read at points because of the magnitude of suffering endured by the children in the examples, but the discomfort was worth the exercise in empathy I experienced. I will make a more deliberate effort to meet people in their world rather than remaining in mine.
Favorite quote:
“Like people who learn a foreign language late in life, Virginia and Laura will never speak the language of love without an accent.”
My favorite part of the book was a beautiful notion posited by Dr. Perry: we are the main medium through which we are traumatized, but we are also the main medium through which we are healed. Humans hurt humans, yes, but humans heal humans. Suffering is inevitable. Hope abounds!
This book was hard to read at points because of the magnitude of suffering endured by the children in the examples, but the discomfort was worth the exercise in empathy I experienced. I will make a more deliberate effort to meet people in their world rather than remaining in mine.
Favorite quote:
“Like people who learn a foreign language late in life, Virginia and Laura will never speak the language of love without an accent.”
September 24, 2022
Rašoma apie '90-uosius o aktualu iki šiol. Ir ši knyga ne apie vieną apleistą berniuką, kaip iš pradžių gali atrodyti, tokų apleistų vaikų šioje knygoje daug. Prievarta, nepriežiūra, išnaudojimas ir kitos traumos ankstyvame amžiuje turėjo nepataisomų padarinių jiems augant. Gaila, ne visi nuskriausti vaikai turi galimybę sutikti tokį išmintingą ir užjaučiantį gydytoją kaip Perry. Jo įžvalgos, tyrimai, metodai suteikė viltį ir grąžino siaubą patyrusius vaikus į gražų gyvenimą. Atrodo sunku suvokti, kad vėliau, net didžiulė meilė negali pilnai užgydyti sielos žaizdų. Tačiau meilė ir mokslas kartu gali labai daug.
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