Our Family's Attachment Dance

I first want to introduce myself:  I am an adoptive parent of a child from a hard place (a child from a hard place is a child who starts life in a place without consistent caregivers, with one caregiver but not consistent care, for some it can be called neglect, for some it is abuse, for some it is multiple moves between caregivers in early life). I am also an adult who was fortunate to have seen some of the ways the US foster care system works from a teen's standpoint.  What I share here is based on my experiences, feelings and what other adoptive parents have shared with me.